How To Deal With Falling In Love With A Colleauge

January 2, 2012|Interesting Facts, Tips At work| No comments yet

If you have fallen in love with someone that you work with, what should you do about it? It could be the best thing that has ever happened to you, or it could be the absolute worst thing that could happen to you. How much you value your job will help you determine how you react, but you should understand that the feelings may not be mutual, so be careful in how you proceed.

Can You Work With This Person

The first question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you can work with this person without revealing your true feelings. If so, you have nothing to worry about. You can see how the relationship proceeds and wait for a proper time to reveal your feelings. If these feelings don’t get in the way of working with this person, you can admit your feelings without too much fear of rejection. If the feelings are not mutual, it is OK because the professional relationship is still intact and the other person won’t feel as if you are still wanting something more.

What If The Feelings Are Mutual

Having someone you have fallen in love with not share your feelings can be hard. On the other hand, it can be hard if someone does share those feelings. If you start dating, would you put your job at risk? Would others at work feel awkward around a couple, or feel like the relationship might be getting you and your significant other ahead based on something other than merit. There needs to be a plan to deal with that.

How This Could Effect Their Life

What if the person you have feelings for is married, or has kids? While it would be nice to say that they would not be interested, this isn’t always the case. You could be tempting someone to commit adultery, or risk their marriage for you. Yes, it isn’t your fault entirely, but you should understand what you are doing is wrong and should consider backing off. Considering only your feelings is selfish.

Having feelings for someone in the office is a totally normal thing. You spend a lot of time with the folks that you work with, so it would only be natural that you might develop something for one of your co-workers. However, keep things professional as much as possible and make sure that you are not risking your career because of your feelings for someone at the office.